Well written! I myself am half through writing a blog on 'marriages'... some things need to be changed... but as is always, changes come in at a very slow pace... :(
sangs
· 2 years ago
can't say its failure. Know a lot of my friends who opted out of love marriage just 'cos their parents wouldn't accept and not that they were not capable of finding a good partner for themselves.But,yea ,I really am unable to figure out yet how ,how can you say yes to someone you dont even know ?!!! Beats me !!
Sami
· 2 years ago
Love and Arranged, Rendum onnuthaan boss ! Love or Arranged, Face pidichiruntha thaan makkal approach-e panranga ! Love or Arranged, Pala matter pesaranga particularly boy and girl are discussing much b4 parents start discussing. View, opinion, approach and everything else ellam pesaranga. Othu vantha parents kitta solranga. Parents mudikaranga. Love-um athey katha thaan. Love vandha vudane parents kitta solli sambantham vangina, arranged marriage-ku enna time kidaikumo athey time thaan love marriagekum kidaikkum.
Sudden-a oruthara parthu eppadi solrathuna, love panrathuku munnadiyum appadithaane? Intha mathiri q's venumna, ladies-ku nyayama irukkalam but not for males ;)
Ellathukkum Dhil venum. Thats all !
Ranjhith
· 2 years ago
@akp
Welcome to Thrattle. :) Wen't thro' your blog. Touched upon very interesting topics. Keep it going. :)
@sangs
> who opted out of love marriage
:P This is another kinda failure.
> how can you say yes to someone you dont even know ?
In a crude way, its the mankind's urge that makes one say a "yes". :)
Yenna, "I love you" innu solli, oru ponne 1st week laye madaki irrupeenga pola. :P
Love is to be grown, like in tissue-culture. You work for it & you gain it. Neenga sollurathu, "Kandathaum Kaadhal", I agree. But its love only when, "Sonnaal thaan Kaadhal". This part takes time.
Its like saying, its "truth" only when you tell everyone, otherwise its just a "secret". :)
Aparna
· 2 years ago
First of all, you are against marriage itself. Then why are you now even arguing about which type of marriage is better? :P
>Love is to be grown, like in tissue-culture. You work for it & you gain it. This part takes time. Even after arranged marriage, you can work for love and let it grow. :P You have all the time here to let it grow.
Ranjhith
· 2 years ago
@Aparna I'm not against marriage! What made you to think so? :O
I didn't argue anything. I was just expressing an individual's concern & change of attitude while he grows-up to tie a knot.
> Even after arranged marriage, you can work for love ...
One has to do such, otherwise theres no escape. :) But the irony with this kinda love is, it is with more of a "compulsion" than being more "natural". One can snap such a compulsion with a divorce. But again he/she is compelled to find one soon. You see nothing appears natural, like "it just happened".
@Sami Confirmed! Sariya maati irrukeenga pola. :) Best wishes.
Sami
· 2 years ago
@Ranjhith, I gues this is the second post on this series ( i remember some post about girl friend approval..etc)...So Best Wishes to Ranjhith Kumar :)
Nambala yaarum innum asaikkala pa !
Aparna
· 2 years ago
One of your previous Intellisparks made me think like that. Btw even in the case of love marriages, once the initial attraction or whatever fades away, they are compelled to work on keeping their love alive :P
Sukla M C
· 2 years ago
nice one . . . .
Ranjhith
· 2 years ago
@Sami Neenga thaan konjam asainjuteengala? :P But still, I guess, something fishy has happened. :)
@Aparna Very true. But in love marriages, there is some kinda attachment/belonging as the marriage was initiated by the individuals & not their parents. This due responsible feeling makes the initial love to survive much longer.
@Sukla Hey! Welcome to Thrattle. Thanks. :)
Sami
· 2 years ago
@ranjhith, Intial attraction individuals-la vandha enna, vera reasons-la vandha enna... rendu eduthalyum love poiduchuna, marriage gaali
All Comments
Love or Arranged, Face pidichiruntha thaan makkal approach-e panranga !
Love or Arranged, Pala matter pesaranga particularly boy and girl are discussing much b4 parents start discussing. View, opinion, approach and everything else ellam pesaranga. Othu vantha parents kitta solranga. Parents mudikaranga. Love-um athey katha thaan. Love vandha vudane parents kitta solli sambantham vangina, arranged marriage-ku enna time kidaikumo athey time thaan love marriagekum kidaikkum.
Sudden-a oruthara parthu eppadi solrathuna, love panrathuku munnadiyum appadithaane? Intha mathiri q's venumna, ladies-ku nyayama irukkalam but not for males ;)
Ellathukkum Dhil venum. Thats all !
Welcome to Thrattle. :) Wen't thro' your blog. Touched upon very interesting topics. Keep it going. :)
@sangs
> who opted out of love marriage
:P This is another kinda failure.
> how can you say yes to someone you dont even know ?
In a crude way, its the mankind's urge that makes one say a "yes". :)
@Sami
> Sudden-a oruthara parthu eppadi solrathuna,
> love panrathuku munnadiyum appadithaane?
Yenna, "I love you" innu solli, oru ponne 1st week laye madaki irrupeenga pola. :P
Love is to be grown, like in tissue-culture. You work for it & you gain it. Neenga sollurathu, "Kandathaum Kaadhal", I agree. But its love only when, "Sonnaal thaan Kaadhal". This part takes time.
Its like saying, its "truth" only when you tell everyone, otherwise its just a "secret". :)
>Love is to be grown, like in tissue-culture. You work for it & you gain it. This part takes time.
Even after arranged marriage, you can work for love and let it grow. :P You have all the time here to let it grow.
I'm not against marriage! What made you to think so? :O
I didn't argue anything. I was just expressing an individual's concern & change of attitude while he grows-up to tie a knot.
> Even after arranged marriage, you can work for love ...
One has to do such, otherwise theres no escape. :) But the irony with this kinda love is, it is with more of a "compulsion" than being more "natural". One can snap such a compulsion with a divorce. But again he/she is compelled to find one soon. You see nothing appears natural, like "it just happened".
Arranged-o Love-o,
Manushan Nalla irukanumna Give
Thaan ore vazhi...
Thanee Vazhi...
all come take maadi ;)
(See, oru vadivelu comedy, TR speech parthathaala vandha epect-u , english thaaru maar-a irundha kandukatheenga )
> Manushan Nalla irukanumna Give
> Thaan ore vazhi…
> Thanee Vazhi…
Thalaivali. :P
Confirmed! Sariya maati irrukeenga pola. :) Best wishes.
I gues this is the second post on this series ( i remember some post about girl friend approval..etc)...So Best Wishes to Ranjhith Kumar :)
Nambala yaarum innum asaikkala pa !
Btw even in the case of love marriages, once the initial attraction or whatever fades away, they are compelled to work on keeping their love alive :P
Neenga thaan konjam asainjuteengala? :P But still, I guess, something fishy has happened. :)
@Aparna
Very true. But in love marriages, there is some kinda attachment/belonging as the marriage was initiated by the individuals & not their parents. This due responsible feeling makes the initial love to survive much longer.
@Sukla
Hey! Welcome to Thrattle. Thanks. :)
Intial attraction individuals-la vandha enna, vera reasons-la vandha enna... rendu eduthalyum love poiduchuna, marriage gaali
Ellam onnum thaan.
Fishy-avathu mannagattiyavathu ! Unga mela thaan doubt, double confirmed hehe ;)
> rendu eduthalyum love poiduchuna
True. Marriage gaali thaan. I guess, it'll go galli after a long time for the "loved" ones comparing the "arranged" ones.
> Unga mela thaan doubt
The fisherman was fished out when he went out for fishing. :)
Enna Ranjhith... These days so many unexpectd posts from u :) U deluded the others these days :P???
Thanks. Deluded? Not at all. Just an apprehension. :)